Join the club, right?! We are constantly presented with problems, situations, and decisions that we have never had to deal with before. Maybe it’s a decision at work, a family issue, a relationship, or what the next step is in your life? These can add a lot of stress and discouragement to our lives if we don’t know how to handle it.
So what should we do when we don’t know what to do? Is stressing out and complaining about it the answer? Should we just Google our problem and go with the first piece of advice we click on? Do we just ask our friends what they would do? Or do we just ignore our problem and delay making a decision as long a possible and hope it just goes away? Although we might be guilty of doing all these things at times, I don’t think they are the best solutions.
Life is one decision after another. Knowing how to make the right one is essential.
Making the right decisions is not as hard as we make it out to be. Here are what I like to call the “3 GO’s” that have really helped me navigate through some tough decisions:
The 3 GO’s When You Don’t Know What To Do
1. Go to GOD
This should always be your first step. Remember, nothing ever catches God by surprise and He already knows what you should do even before you ask Him. Seeking God for His wisdom and direction is the best thing you can do when you have no clue what to do. Here are some specific ways you can go to God:
- Prayer: Take some time to talk with God in prayer about the situation and ask Him for His wisdom. He wants to give it to you (James 1:5).
- The Word: The Bible is God speaking to you. As you read, see if there are any specific scriptures that pop off the page to you. Before you make any major life-changing decisions, it’s good to have 2-3 scriptures that you can stand on as a anchor (2 Cor. 13:1).
- Holy Spirit: Listen to what you sense the Holy Spirit is speaking to your spirit. He is your guide and will show you things to come (John 16:13).
- Peace: Search for the solution that has the most peace on it. God will lead you by peace (Isaiah 55:12), so make sure you follow it.
2. Go to OTHERS
After you have sought God first (key word AFTER), then it’s ok to seek the advice of others. If you jump to this step first, you can be easily misled by well meaning people. It’s important to hear from God’s wisdom before man’s wisdom. But once you have a good idea of what you sense the Lord would have you do, it’s cool to ask for advice from highly esteemed people in your life.
The Bible says that “in the multitude of counselors there is safety” (Proverbs 11:14). A mentor, parent, boss, pastor, or respected friend aren’t usually as emotionally involved with the issue, and can often give advice from a fresh perspective. Sound and godly advice from someone you look up to can often confirm what God has already been speaking to your heart. God can speak to you through people, so don’t ignore them when you have a big decision to make.
3. Go SLOW
If it is not exactly clear what God would have you do or you’re not entirely settled on the advice given by others, then wait. If a decision doesn’t have to be made right that instant, then don’t rush it. Too many rash decisions turn into wrong decisions.
God is not the author of confusion (1 Cor. 14:33); He is not in a rush, so neither should you be. Some of the best advice I have ever been given when it comes to making an important decision is to “sit on it”. Even if you are pretty confident in what you should do, it never hurts to “sleep on it” or wait a few more days to make sure you still have peace in your heart. Make sure you “know that you know” and then confidently move forward with your decision with no regrets.
Don’t let the fear of not knowing what to do paralyze you any longer from making the right decisions. Remember to seek God, get good counsel, and don’t be in a rush. You know what to do, so go out and do it with confidence.
If you don’t know what you’re doing, pray to the Father. He loves to help. You’ll get his help, and won’t be condescended to when you ask for it.James 1:5 The Message